Life is MESSY and Life is HARD

I’ve had a pretty challenging past 24 hours.  And, being only human, I have felt very frustrated and quite miserable.

Miserable

This morning, a variety of events took place that really challenged me. It all felt like just too much. (I am sure that you can identify with that feeling – feeling completely overwhelmed by life’s challenges). I was about to phone a friend and ask them to come and find me and just hold me while I sobbed. But, before I did, something ‘dawned’ on me, or, should I say, I had a bit of an epiphany:

  • Life is hard – and experiencing this is something experienced by all living beings;

Life is hard for everybody

  • Sometimes, life is going to be particularly hard – but these do not last forever;
  • Compared to many people in the world, my life is absolutely fantastic; and

The suffering of others

  • That I need to make a choice – to allow myself to have a mini-meltdown, or, to choose to carry on driving and do the things that I need to do.

Choose to keep going

 

Of course, we are all entitled to our emotions. There ARE going to be times in which we feel that we just cannot carry on. There will be situations in our lives that will cause us great sadness or great stress.

 

But, just as certain, there will also be GREAT moments. Life will also sometimes be good. There will also be situations that bring us immense joy and satisfaction.

Life will be beautiful

 

In Italian, there is an expression ‘La vita e’ bella’ – this means ‘Life is beautiful’.

 

Oprah Winfrey (the famous US TV presenter) would often ask her audience ‘what do you know for certain?’.

 

Well, one of the things that I know for certain is that life is  incredibly difficult, and, life is also incredibly beautiful. 

 

I would like to end today’s post with a short reference to quite a beautiful story that appears in the Christian Bible, in the Jewish Torah, as well as in the Muslim Koran

All three of these Holy Books tell us of how Joshua and Caleb were amongst a group of 12 people sent by Moses to go and report on what things looked like in the land of  Canaan.  When the group of people returned to give Moses their feedback, 10 of the 12 people gave really negative opinions about what the situation was like in Canaan. The main feedback given to Moses was that Canaan was ‘Eretz Ochelet Yoshveiah’  [Hebrew for ‘A land that devours its inhabitants]. However, contrary to that negative feedback, Caleb and Joshua said that Canaan was in fact ‘Eretz Zavat Halav U’Dvash’ [Hebrew for ‘A land flowing with milk and honey’].

Why do I mention this story? Well, today I choose to believe that my life is going to contain ‘milk and honey’. And, that I am ready and waiting for the good stuff  (‘milk and honey’).

 

Wishing you all a happy day!

Take care of yourselves.

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What is kindness NOT?

Hi there everybody,

 

Kindness is often considered to be a bit of a lame word. Kindness is what ‘sweet’ people do, right? People such as missionaries and social workers are kind, yes?

Well, not actually.

What is kindness not?

Kindness is often under-valued – it’s considered to be mostly just the stuff expressed in those soppy Hallmark cards. How sad is that?

So, if most of us think that kindness is ‘lame’, how do we feel when we personally experience the opposite of kindness?

What are the opposites of kindness?

  • Cruelty
  • Indifference
  • Impatience
  • Intolerance
  • Abuse
  • Ridicule
  • Dishonesty
  • Disrespect
  • The need to punish and make somebody feel bad
  • The need to assert your superiority over somebody so that the other person feels ‘less than’ and insignificant
  • Withholding time, affection, intimacy
  • Not appreciating somebody
  • Not recognising and affirming somebody regarding who they are and what they do

And many more …

Can you see how important kindness really is?  How do we feel when we experience these opposites being done to us?

So, is kindness really that lame? Because it is certainly not lame when we get to experience, first hand, any of the opposites of kindness.

I guess it basically boils down to the age-old proverb of treating others the same way that we want to be treated. That’s kindness. 

Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

Kindness for today