Daily dose of coffee

“One cup of coffee is all it takes to conquer the world. 
 Jarod Kintz

Every morning when I wake up, I immediately brew some coffee. I need that cup of coffee to wake up – I need my coffee before I can start functioning.

Throughout the day, I will continuously and absentmindedly make numerous cups of coffee. I am convinced that it keeps me awake and aware, and that it aids in my quest to keep on going.

Coffee cup

For me, the truly great thing about coffee is that it tastes really good, and that there are many different brands and flavours to choose from. For those days that I feel somewhat down, I mix a spoon of hot chocolate powder into my cup of coffee, to make my own version of a chocochino; sometimes I throw in a handful of mini marshmallows as well. It serves as my comfort, and figuratively speaking, my crutch.

The daily dose of coffee can be seen as a metaphor. We all need different things to make it through a day. For some, it will be a cup of coffee, while others might need an energy drink, or might need to start their day by listening to the news, their favourite song, loud and pumping music, or gentle, soothing music.

Some will exercise in the morning, read the paper, or make time to meditate, pray or read scriptures. There are endless possibilities and routines that each of us follow to help us get through the day.

“Breathe in the sweet air of limitless possibilities, and make life as rich as you know it can be.”  – Ralph Marston

Wake up and live

We should invest in our daily dose of “coffees” – regardless of what it may be for each of us. We need to remember to invest in what makes us happy.

If you invest in these things each day, you will invest in your future. We will not all necessarily live long lives, but as long as we make the most of each day, then it will have been long enough.

“Invest in the future because that is where you are going to spend the rest of your life.” – Habeeb Akande

As each new day dawns, I want you to remember that you are important; you are strong; and if there is a day that you cannot have your daily cup of coffee, remember to just breathe

Carpe Diem!

Do what you love

 

“Happiness is by choice, not chance” – Jim Rohn

There is this general misconception in life that if we have two or three university degrees, work long hours, and earn a five or six figure salary, we will be happy.

Life is hard, challenging, demanding, and sometimes asks too much of us, but we do not have to enslave ourselves in order to be happy.

Let me be clear – there is nothing wrong with having an education and striving towards your goals by working long hours. We all have different ideals and dreams. But if you ask yourself today: “Am I happy? Genuinely happy?” and you hesitate to answer, then I have a simple solution for you.

You do not necessarily have to change your career or uproot your whole life in order to find the happiness that you deserve. There are simple things in life that can make us feel secure, loved, happy, excited and content.

Riding a bike at sunset

Here is a list of a few things that you can do:

  1. Find time to do some exercise. Not because you need to lose weight, but to get some blood and endorphins flowing! You will feel healthier. Exercise does not necessarily mean spending hours in a gym – you can do something less strenuous, such as going for a 20-minute walk every day.
  2. Look in the mirror and find a physical quality that you like about yourself. Write it down and remind yourself of it every day.
  3. Think about 5 non-physical things that you like about yourself, and add it to your growing list.
  4. Think about 5 activities that you enjoy, such as playing with a dog or kitten, cooking food, swimming, or listening to music. Write them down and try to do at least one of them once a week.
  5. Write down 5 things that you would like to do, but have not yet gotten around to doing, such as taking cooking classes, travelling to certain destinations, studying a course, or learning a new language. Set yourself goals to do at least one of those things in the next year.
  6. Make time for yourself to relax and be comfortable. This may entail taking a bath, wearing your favourite pyjamas, curling up under a blanket, or having a massage. Do this at least twice a week.
  7. Make a list of your favourite sounds, smells and tastes. Sensory stimulation is one of the best ways to trigger happiness. It may be the sound of the rain, the smell of freshly mown grass, or the taste of a chocolate croissant. Take the time to experience these things again. Some are so simple, for nature provides us with these comforts.
  8. Make a list of 5 goals that you want to reach in the next ten years. Motivation is a great way to elicit happiness.

I am responsible for my own happiness

We have a right to be happy. We tend to forget that happiness is right at our fingertips. Eating more healthily, exercising, and doing things that we love are important steps in the direction of happiness.

Remember that we are responsible for ourselves, and therefore have the power to be joyful and content. Write your own story. Do what you love!

 

“Happiness is a direction, not a place.” – Sydney J. Harris

Happiness is a choice. You are the only person who can make you happy. You're as happy as you choose to be.

 

Just Dance

I have recently been under a lot of stress, and it has taken its toll on my health. It made me think about how pointless it is to stress about things that are out of my control. Stressing about it will not make it go away, nor make it easier. In fact, the stress makes it harder. The more anxious I get, the more difficult it is to deal with the situation.

People tend to tell you “don’t stress” or “stop stressing”, but it is often easier said than done. No-one on this earth can possibly understand or comprehend what you are going through. Stress and anxiety are basic human reactions to painful, unwanted or uncomfortable situations. If this is a reality, then how do we overcome stress?

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James

William James said that we can fight stress by choosing one thought over another. We can choose to think about other things, force ourselves not to dwell on that which makes us weary, anxious, stressed, depressed or angry.

Instead of being angry or anxious about the approaching storm, rather be excited that you will get to smell the rain. Instead of stressing about being stuck in traffic, appreciate the beauty around you, or sing along to that golden oldie playing on your car radio.

Holding out your hands in the rain

“The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.” – Andrew Bernstein

I salute Andrew Bernstein for exposing the real reason for stress. The root cause of our stress does not lie in events or bad circumstances, but in our reaction to them. We must all realise that we are living in the present. It’s not about yesterday or tomorrow, but now. Therefore, stressing about yesterday or tomorrow is pointless. By stressing about days to come or days that have passed, you are deliberately letting your life pass you by, without living the life that you deserve.

We were not placed upon this earth to stress, or to be angered, sad or anxious. Yes, being human means that every so often we might experience these emotions, but we should not allow them to define us.

“Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not.” – Valerie Bertinelli

Today I challenge you to forget about your problems, and focus on the positive aspects of life. Do not worry about what will come or what has gone. Today is a beautiful day. Feel the sunshine, feel the rain, listen to the sound of the ocean and listen to the sound of the birds in the garden. Throw your hands up in the air and just dance!

Sunset_Party_Dancing_Girl_Silhouette

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