I have been an ASS

My confession: I have been an ASS:

Confession, Forgiveness, Apology


When I was in high school, I used to think that EVERYTHING was ‘lame’ and / or cruel:

(Can you see the pattern in the list below?)

  • School rules were cruel because they favoured the ‘perfect students’ and they were lame because they just made no sense.
  • Teachers were cruel because they favoured the ‘well-behaved’ students.
  • The good kids were lame because they obeyed the lame rules.
  • Sporting activities were cruel because they made us non-athletes look stupid (see picture below).

Not athletic

  • Sporting activities were cruel because they were won by the lame students who obeyed the lame school rules as set out by the lame teachers.


By the way, I ALSO hated:

  • people who wore pink,

People who wear pink

  • the concept of ‘white picket fences’,
  • mothers in shops whose babies were crying,
  • girls that wore pink make-up,
  • girls that wanted to have a pony,

girls who want a pony

  • girls with perfect hair,
  • girls with long legs.

blonde girls with long legs


I was a teenager filled with unkind thoughts that were often not based on any real facts. I despised everything and everyone from the school cheerleaders to the school prefects to the school beauty queens.

I basically thought that these people were aliens from another planet. And, I was not particularly nice or friendly towards them. Why? Because I was an ASS. 

(It was much easier to mock the cheerleader than to admit that I wasn’t pretty or co-ordinated or popular enough to be a cheerleader myself)


How do I know that I was an ASS?

Some time ago, a new person started working here at the College. When I first met her I thought that she was the type of person that, in many ways, represented the kinds of people that I would have despised back in my teenage years.

In my mind, my new colleague was:

  • the typical school cheerleader – She is such a happy person and she just loves team spirit activities.
  • the school beauty queen – She is tall, blonde and beautiful.
  • the typical beautiful girl with perfect blonde hair and perfect long legs.

Basically, I thought that she was somebody that was SO different from me.

I now have to eat a huge slice of humble pie:

humble pie






This new colleague:

  • Is one of the COOLEST, NON-LAME people that I know,
  • She is one of the SMARTEST people that I know,
  • She is one of the KINDEST people that I know,
  • She is so not even remotely cruel that she wouldn’t even hurt a flea,
  • She is one of the FUNNIEST people that I know,
  • She is one of the most ASSERTIVE people that I know.

And, in addition, this colleague helped me to realise that I was an ASS because she pointed out just how similar her and I are!!


  • We both love the same perfume,
  • We both love the same wine,
  • We both love drinking LOTS of wine,
  • We both love to make potjiekos,
  • We both love to tell funny stories about our youth,
  • We both love road trips and adventures,
  • We both love standing up for what we believe in,
  • We both have very loving hearts,
  • We live in the same neighbourhood,
  • We work at the same place,
  • We both used to be rebels,
  • We both like ‘souvenirs’ from places we visit.

The list could go on and on.

We are so similar that we joke that we could have been sisters. People just like her are people just like me.


If ever I am stranded with a group of people on a deserted island, I can only hope that she will be there with me:


  • She will keep me happy and laughing with all her motivational and team activities,
  • She will find a way to steal (for both of us) the last of the remaining wine,
  • She will find a way to make me look pretty in spite of being stranded on a deserted island,
  • She will stand up to anybody who tries to hurt my feelings,
  • She will keep me entertained with all her amazing stories,
  • She will be physically strong enough to build us a shelter (she’s given birth to 3 kids … so this basically makes her Superwoman!!),
  • She will be able to pick fruit from the tall tree branches because of her lovely long legs.


And, final PS:

If ever I find somebody to marry, I want her to organise the whole wedding. Because of her, I know that I will be able to have the craziest wedding with 1 000 pink ponies, fountains of red wine, rainbows and unicorns.

She’s so super cool … and I am honoured to call her my friend.

I will try to be less of an ass in the future …

Things that can make you happy


There are many things that make people happy; so many people say there are big secrets to be happy.

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Now instead of giving you some big secret to live a happy life I have something simpler; some little things that can make you happy daily.

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Focus on these little things you do daily

1. Waking up, fully rested. Isn’t that feeling of waking up perfectly rested just amazing and doesn’t that make you happy?

2. Having a good appearance; looking good for the day, that’s very cool.

3. A good breakfast.

4. Finding money you didn’t know you had. Rich or poor this is a great feeling.

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5. Hearing your favourite song. Music changes your mood.

6. Enjoy the weather –  cold or warm!

7. Getting  work done, because you are just so productive and in a very determined.

8. Your 8 hour work day was so productive it just flies by.

images (3)9. Getting to leave work earlier.

10. When you get home, kicking off your shoes.

11. Watching your favourite movie or series

12. Having a good healthy supper that you enjoy

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13. Having a nice shower or  a long bubble bath.

14. Getting ready for bed feeling content and accomplished for all the tasks of the day.

15. Smiling when you drift off to dreamland

Sure we don’t always have great days,  however we should try to enjoy these little things that we experience daily.

Change your mindset!

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Happiness is a choice and you can live happily!



Awaken Your Fire

Hi there everybody,


Just a very quick message to all of you:


You are not lost


All that is gold does NOT glitter,

Not all those who wander are LOST;

The old that is strong does NOT wither,

Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ASHES a FIRE shall be WOKEN,

A light from the SHADOWS shall spring;

RENEWED shall be blade that WAS BROKEN,

The crownless again shall be KING.



Take care of yourselves and have a great weekend!

3 Ways to feel happier, guaranteed!

Hi there to you all,


Happiness is one of the best emotions that we can feel. There is no perfect definition of ‘happiness’, but we all know what happiness is when we do (or don’t) feel it.


Be happy


“Happiness is when what you THINK, what you SAY, and what you DO are in complete harmony” [As said by my hero, Gandhi].


One of my personal goals for this year is to spend more time being happy.


1) ONLY spend time with people who make you feel good, respected and loved. 

Laugh with your friends


As much as possible, we should spend time with people who make us feel good about ourselves. People who want us to be happy and positive. Be in the company of people who make you smile, in fact, that make you laugh so much that your jaws start to hurt.


2) Find something that YOU enjoy doing, and do it!

Do something you enjoy


I’m willing to bet that most of us can think of things we would love to do IF we just had the time. It can be anything – walking your dog / painting / ice skating / swimming / eating ice cream ….

Spending even just 30 minutes a week doing something you enjoy is certainly going to help you to feel happier.

Don’t just talk about it – do it!




3) Be kind and helpful

I know it sounds a bit corny, but spending time helping others really does make us feel better.

Knowing that we have helped somebody (even in a really small way) makes us feel good. 

Be kind today 

You don’t have to be Mother Theresa to be helpful.

simple kindness


‘Help’ and ‘kindness’ can take many forms:

  • Volunteering at your local library;
  • Donating some food / resources to a charity of your choice;
  • Helping an elderly person carry their parcels;
  • Writing a letter to somebody you know is going through a tough time and telling them that you are there for them;
  • Giving somebody a hug and telling them how special they are.


acts of kindness



So, those were my top 3 tips to feeling happier. I really hope that you try them out and that they work for you.

Inspiration Ideas:

By the way …. if you would like some inspiration about hobbies or creative things you would like to get involved with, why don’t you take a look at the great hobbyist courses offered by College SA?

We have everything from Interior Decorating to Web Design courses. Who knows … your new hobby could become your new career!!!



That’s all for today. Wishing you lots of laughter and happiness,

Your friends at College SA.

The time is now

I must admit that I used to get annoyed when people made statements like, “There is no better time than the present” and, “Life goes by so quickly – do things you enjoy.” I used to see it as people trying to throw advice at me. Now I understand that they were only trying to help me.


As I get older, I am starting to realise that the present is all we really have. If we use this knowledge to our advantage, we can achieve something worthwhile. Many of the highly successful people in the world are only successful because they acted at the right time. Timing can be a determining factor when it comes to success and failure.
The older I get, the more quickly time seems to fly by. I remember how a year used to feel like such a long time. Nowadays, a year goes by so fast that it is over in the blink of an eye – another birthday, another Valentine’s Day, and another Christmas all come and go so quickly.

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If we’re not careful, life passes us by while we spend most of our time thinking about doing things, instead of actually doing the things we want to do. I am a very indecisive person, which means that it takes me a long time to make up my mind to do something.
These sentiments make me realise that we do only have the present, and that putting things off does not help. The list of things we want to do just keeps growing until we end up doing none of it because it has all become too overwhelming.

As you read this, you are the youngest that you will be for the rest of your life. Make the most of it. Do the things you want to do. Don’t just work hard: enjoy life; take a walk in nature; go on a holiday; find the things that really matter to you and do more of them.
If you are thinking about studying, make that call to a student registrar. Do not wait until it becomes just another passing thought. Acting now is what is going to make your dreams come true.

It's time to start living the life you've imagined.

Motivation = Success

Many students never reach their goals or finish their studies because they don’t have sufficient belief in themselves. Motivating yourself and giving yourself a little bit more credit every now and then can help you to reach your full potential, whether that means finishing your studies or reaching your future goals.

“Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

– Wayne Dyer

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Getting motivated

There are many things you can do to motivate yourself:

  • Sit still for a minute and think about why studying and furthering your education is a good decision. Ask yourself why you should complete your course and get a certificate or diploma qualification.
  • Think about a few career goals that fit your abilities, skills and knowledge.
  • Get in contact with people who are already working in the professional industry. Try to get a part-time job in the field you would like to pursue a career in. The more hands-on experience you get, the easier your studies will be and the easier it will be to get a job.
  • Study a course that you are truly interested in. It will motivate you so much more to follow through and complete your studies. It will also help you choose the right career so that you won’t end up being unhappy or doing a job that you don’t really enjoy.

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”

– OgMandino

 Until next time.

Take care.