Life is MESSY and Life is HARD

I’ve had a pretty challenging past 24 hours.  And, being only human, I have felt very frustrated and quite miserable.

Miserable

This morning, a variety of events took place that really challenged me. It all felt like just too much. (I am sure that you can identify with that feeling – feeling completely overwhelmed by life’s challenges). I was about to phone a friend and ask them to come and find me and just hold me while I sobbed. But, before I did, something ‘dawned’ on me, or, should I say, I had a bit of an epiphany:

  • Life is hard – and experiencing this is something experienced by all living beings;

Life is hard for everybody

  • Sometimes, life is going to be particularly hard – but these do not last forever;
  • Compared to many people in the world, my life is absolutely fantastic; and

The suffering of others

  • That I need to make a choice – to allow myself to have a mini-meltdown, or, to choose to carry on driving and do the things that I need to do.

Choose to keep going

 

Of course, we are all entitled to our emotions. There ARE going to be times in which we feel that we just cannot carry on. There will be situations in our lives that will cause us great sadness or great stress.

 

But, just as certain, there will also be GREAT moments. Life will also sometimes be good. There will also be situations that bring us immense joy and satisfaction.

Life will be beautiful

 

In Italian, there is an expression ‘La vita e’ bella’ – this means ‘Life is beautiful’.

 

Oprah Winfrey (the famous US TV presenter) would often ask her audience ‘what do you know for certain?’.

 

Well, one of the things that I know for certain is that life is  incredibly difficult, and, life is also incredibly beautiful. 

 

I would like to end today’s post with a short reference to quite a beautiful story that appears in the Christian Bible, in the Jewish Torah, as well as in the Muslim Koran

All three of these Holy Books tell us of how Joshua and Caleb were amongst a group of 12 people sent by Moses to go and report on what things looked like in the land of  Canaan.  When the group of people returned to give Moses their feedback, 10 of the 12 people gave really negative opinions about what the situation was like in Canaan. The main feedback given to Moses was that Canaan was ‘Eretz Ochelet Yoshveiah’  [Hebrew for ‘A land that devours its inhabitants]. However, contrary to that negative feedback, Caleb and Joshua said that Canaan was in fact ‘Eretz Zavat Halav U’Dvash’ [Hebrew for ‘A land flowing with milk and honey’].

Why do I mention this story? Well, today I choose to believe that my life is going to contain ‘milk and honey’. And, that I am ready and waiting for the good stuff  (‘milk and honey’).

 

Wishing you all a happy day!

Take care of yourselves.

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Things that can make you happy

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There are many things that make people happy; so many people say there are big secrets to be happy.

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Now instead of giving you some big secret to live a happy life I have something simpler; some little things that can make you happy daily.

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Focus on these little things you do daily

1. Waking up, fully rested. Isn’t that feeling of waking up perfectly rested just amazing and doesn’t that make you happy?

2. Having a good appearance; looking good for the day, that’s very cool.

3. A good breakfast.

4. Finding money you didn’t know you had. Rich or poor this is a great feeling.

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5. Hearing your favourite song. Music changes your mood.

6. Enjoy the weather –  cold or warm!

7. Getting  work done, because you are just so productive and in a very determined.

8. Your 8 hour work day was so productive it just flies by.

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10. When you get home, kicking off your shoes.

11. Watching your favourite movie or series

12. Having a good healthy supper that you enjoy

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13. Having a nice shower or  a long bubble bath.

14. Getting ready for bed feeling content and accomplished for all the tasks of the day.

15. Smiling when you drift off to dreamland

Sure we don’t always have great days,  however we should try to enjoy these little things that we experience daily.

Change your mindset!

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Happiness is a choice and you can live happily!

Cheers!

 

No one else can play your part

“Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create that fact.”  – William James

Today, the 10th of September, is World Suicide Prevention Day.

Suicide is a topic that we as a society usually shy away from, but I feel that we should rather address it.

Since 2003, the International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) work in partnership with the World Health Organisation (WHO) and the World Federation for Mental Health to plan an international campaign for suicide awareness and prevention.

So often we ignore people who are sad or depressed. A lot of the time we only do that because we do not understand it. But from all the different ways that people die, suicide is the only one that is 100% preventable. For me, this is what this day is all about.

While I was researching, I found another campaign from TWLOHA (To Write Love on Her Arms) that has a universal message – “No one else can play your part”. This slogan really stirred some emotion in me.

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We should not shun people because they are a little different from us. We should rather include them in our lives and share our happiness or hope with them. Kindness goes a long way and I do not think we comprehend just how much even the slightest bit of humanity towards someone can affect and alter their lives.

“Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of this world.”

– Marianne Williamson

The quote from Marianne Williamson ties in with the “No one else can play your part” campaign. There will come a day that you may be confronted with a situation where you can make a positive impact on someone’s life. Don’t hesitate. You could save another human being’s life by doing or saying something that may seem so ordinary to you.

Whether you are the person who always smiles, or you are the person who never stops crying – you are valuable! You are good enough for this world, and your life is precious. You have your own part to play in this life and no one else can be who you are supposed to be.

If you are going through a rough time, or cannot remember the last time you felt happy or safe – just remember that your struggle will become your strength, and your story will have the power to change lives. You are worthy, you are loved and you are beautiful…

All over the world at 8pm tonight, people will light a candle and place it in their window to show support for those people who are fighting depression, and to remember and honour those who we have lost as a result of depression.

Students of College SA, let us light our candles and continue to share our humanity with whoever needs it!

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5 Tips for Mastering Your CV

So you have completed your studies, and now you want to move on to the next step in your life – getting a job.

Before you can get a job, however, you will need to write up your CV.

A CV provides prospective employers with all the information they need about possible candidates for the job. This includes personal details, education, as well as previous work experience.

It is very important that your CV looks good, because this is the first impression that an employer gets of you. Think of it as a shop window – if at first glance you see a disorganised, messy shop, will you want to go inside? Unlikely! You will walk right past and go into the next shop that catches your eye.

It is the same with your CV – if an employer is not impressed by your CV, they will simply toss it aside, and move on to the next one. This sounds harsh, but it is a reality – which is why you need to make sure that your CV stands out from the rest of the applicants’.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind when writing your CV:

  1. Keep your CV to the point.

Studies have shown that, on average, employers spend about 8 seconds scanning through a CV. So make sure you keep it brief. If employers are overwhelmed by an unnecessary overload of information, they will most likely move on to the next applicant’s CV.

  1. Include a personal introduction.

It is helpful to start off your CV with a personal introduction, stating why you think you are ideal for the position that you are applying for. You can communicate what makes you unique, and how you would be an asset for the company. Remember, however, to be modest about it – being too boastful does not create a good impression.

  1. Take time to improve the layout of your CV.

A carefully laid out CV makes for easy reading. Remember to include headings for each section, put main headings in bold, and leave spaces between different sections so that the person reading your CV can easily scan through your CV. Using bullet points also makes for easy and digestible reading.

  1. Check (and re-check!) for spelling and grammar errors.

Even if you are not applying for a job that requires impeccable language skills, CVs that contain spelling and grammar errors will still often get tossed aside. If you cannot take the time and effort to check for mistakes in your CV, it creates the impression that you do not take pride in your work – and why would an employer want to employ someone like that? It is a good idea to get someone to read through your CV before you submit it, because it is easy to overlook our own errors.

  1. Modify your CV for each job that you apply for.

Don’t simply use the same CV for each job application. Tailor it so that it is suited for the specific job that you are applying for. For example, if you are applying for a secretarial job, you should put more emphasis on your secretarial and office-related qualifications and experience, as opposed to your waitering/waitressing experience. The employer will be more interested in job-related education and experience, so make sure that you don’t put the focus on the wrong information.

Your CV is the gateway to getting a job – so don’t be afraid to ask others for help. There are also various websites that provide examples of CVs that you can use as a guide.

All the best!

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Our Champions that Overcome

Hi there Dear Readers,

 

I hope that you are all doing well. In today’s Blog post, I would like to salute all the College SA Super Heroes and Champions.

 

These champions are our students and are staff members that overcome all the challenges in their lives, no matter how tough these challenges are.

 

Life always throws us curve balls. Sometimes these curve balls really suck. In fact, life sometimes throws us some truly horrible curve balls.

Coping with curve balls

A champion is somebody that faces these curve balls – head on – and still gets up every morning and does what they need to do.

 

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As Students, I know how tough it can be to study – you have to afford your studies, you have to find the time to study etc.

As Staff Members, I know that sometimes work can get tough and stressful.

 

But, as Champions, we find a way to carry on. We rely on the strength and love of our friends and family. We dig deep within ourselves and we find our inner strength and we discover than we are far stronger than we ever realised.

 

We find our strength

 

I know that there are so very many champions out there. Champions, like angels and car guards, are all around us.

Today, I would like to pay tribute to a Champion that sits right next to me – the lovely Sasha.

 

Sasha, you are part of our our family. We know your laugh just as we know your Spirit.

Our hearts broke with yours when we heard about your diagnosis.

But, every single one of us knew that you would overcome.

Every single one of us here decided to do whatever we can to help you.

Beautiful Sasha, we are by your side during this curve ball journey –

we respect what you are going through and we honour the courage that you show.

Without a doubt, you will overcome.

You are stronger than the diagnosis and you are already crushing the cancer.

You are one of us, and we won’t let you down.

You are braver than brave and lovelier than lovely.

 

Today, we honour our colleague and friend Sasha – who is kicking cancer’s butt in true Champion style.

 

We love you Sasha. Thank you for being our Hero.

Our hero, Sasha

Changing the world

“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” – John Bunyan

Today I have been thinking about a story I once heard when I was younger. I could not quite remember it, but I knew what to search for. Thanks to my very good friend Google, I was able to find the original story. I would like to share it with you:

 

One day, a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean. Approaching the boy, he asked, “What are you doing?” The young boy replied, “Throwing starfish back into the ocean. The surf is up and the tide is going out. If I do not throw them back, they will die.”

“Son”, the man said, “Don’t you realise there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You cannot make a difference!”

After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. Then, smiling at the man, he said,
“I made a difference for that one.”
– Loren Eisley

 

This story tugged at my emotions and made me realise that it does not matter who you are or what your situation is – you can always make a difference in someone’s life. Even though you cannot save the whole world, you can make a difference to the world of one person.

 
I thought about these quotes from famous people:

“To make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be brilliant, beautiful or smart. You just need to care.”– Mandy Hale

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”– Leo Buscaglia

 

You may not have millions to donate to charity, or the time to volunteer at shelters or old age homes, but you can smile at a stranger, hug an elderly person, adopt an animal, or give your lunch to a child living on the street. You may not even realise how big a difference you made in that person or animal’s life, because you never know the circumstances of each individual. Something as simple as a smile or hug could change their lives completely. We have the power to do so much more than we know.

 

Thomas Merton said: “Our job is to love others without stopping to enquire whether or not they are worthy”.

 

These words hold so much truth. The secret is to love beyond measure. Not just your family, friends or yourself, but also the dirty stranger you walk past in the streets, the boy you see on the bus, the lonely old man in the grocery store, the woman crying in the library, and the child staring at the clouds.

 

Our love should extend even further – to the animals. Not just the attractive pedigree dogs and cats, but even the ones running in the streets, the ones without homes, the sick ones, and the ones who stand little chance of surviving. There is one thing that I have learned from an animal. They do not stop to enquire whether or not we are worthy of their love – they just love us unconditionally. We can certainly learn from them. Every life matters!

 

Today I urge you to be that person, because you are capable of changing someone’s world. Even if it is just one smile at a time…

*T*

Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.