Hi there Dear Readers,
How are you doing today?
Carry on reading, and, once you are done reading I would love for you to leave a comment and let me know what your thoughts are.
Right, let’s start by acknowledging a few (difficult) things:
- We all make mistakes;
- We all get stuff wrong;
- We all start things that we never finish;
- We all ‘fail’ at certain things; and
- We all need extra chances to get things right.
Readers, we can be talking about diets, relationships, work projects and courses that we are studying …. we all make mistakes.
Sometimes we fail miserably.
How many resolutions and objectives have we not met?
The purpose of this article is NOT to make you feel bad or sad. No.
We need to accept that it is ok to make mistakes and to get things wrong.
Every day I get things wrong. Seriously. I don’t even want to mention how many ‘stuff ups’ I make on a daily basis, but the list could include things like:
- Not getting to work on time;
- Being an inconsiderate driver in the morning because I am in such a rush to get to work;
- Not eating breakfast;
- Not eating lunch;
- Snacking on unhealthy food;
- Not finishing my work tasks;
- Not managing to sort out my desk;
- Not greeting everybody that I see;
- Being irritable;
- Making mistakes on things I am working on …
Can you see, our ‘mistakes’ are many and can take many forms. You might think that being irritable is just a small mistake. Maybe. But sometimes me being irritable leads to me rushing through a project and thus not giving that project my full attention. Perhaps also my irritability results in me not being particularly nice to the people I care about. Little mistakes can lead to bigger mistakes.
It’s probably not even worth distinguishing between small and big mistakes.
We are all less than perfect. Sure, we can all strive towards perfection. But let’s get REAL here – we are not perfect. Not even the Dalai Lama is perfect.
I’m not saying don’t try to be brilliant. Brilliant is good . But make sure you understand what ‘brilliant’ means for you.
Okay, so we know about our mistakes. It’s okay. The fact that you made a mistake is actually proof that you TRIED.
“There is no perfection only life”
― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness Of Being
My question to you – what are you going to do about those mistakes? If you have recently failed at something (no matter what it is), what are you going to do about it?
Firstly, well done for acknowledging where you went wrong. At least we are not in denial.
And now? What’s next?
So we have done acknowledgement. Now, stop beating yourself up.
Are you the kind of person that punishes yourself by constantly reminding yourself of your failures?
Don’t. Stop doing that.
After acknowledgement comes action.
Is there anybody that you need to apologise to in terms of the mistake that you made? Did your mistake hurt anybody? Often we hurt those we love the most with our mistakes.
Find a way to say sorry that is sincere and that is meaningful to the person you are apologising to.
Right, now, are you going to try again?
Are you going to get up off the proverbial floor and work towards getting things right? Are you going to set new and fresh goals? Are you going to put your true effort into trying to accomplish whatever it is you want to do / achieve?
How important is it that you achieve whatever it is you want to achieve?
Again, we can be talking about goals / projects / resolutions / resolutions … anything.
What does this goal actually mean to you?
Do you know why you have this goal? Is it a goal that you can realistically achieve? For example, I know that I will never, EVER, became a world-class marathon runner. That is just not going to happen. Not even close.
What can you do differently this time to help you to achieve this goal?
How badly do you want to achieve this goal? What are you willing to do to achieve this goal?
“While I can’t have you, I long for you.I am the kind of person who would miss a train or a plane to meet you for coffee. I’d take a taxi across town to see you for ten minutes. I’d wait outside all night if I thought you would open the door in the morning. If you call me and say ‘Will you…’ my answer is ‘Yes’, before your sentence is out. ” Jeanette Winterson
Go on … what are you waiting for? Get up off the floor. Look deep within yourself and find the courage to step forward again.
Don’t give up. Ever. Keep trying. Keep hoping. Keep believing.
“I know that life isn’t life if you just float through it. I know that the whole point – the only point – is to find the things that matter and hold onto them and fight for them and refuse to let them go.”
― Lauren Oliver, Delirium
Okay Readers, that’s enough soul-searching ‘serious stuff’ for now. Take care of yourselves.