What is kindness NOT?

Hi there everybody,


Kindness is often considered to be a bit of a lame word. Kindness is what ‘sweet’ people do, right? People such as missionaries and social workers are kind, yes?

Well, not actually.

What is kindness not?

Kindness is often under-valued – it’s considered to be mostly just the stuff expressed in those soppy Hallmark cards. How sad is that?

So, if most of us think that kindness is ‘lame’, how do we feel when we personally experience the opposite of kindness?

What are the opposites of kindness?

  • Cruelty
  • Indifference
  • Impatience
  • Intolerance
  • Abuse
  • Ridicule
  • Dishonesty
  • Disrespect
  • The need to punish and make somebody feel bad
  • The need to assert your superiority over somebody so that the other person feels ‘less than’ and insignificant
  • Withholding time, affection, intimacy
  • Not appreciating somebody
  • Not recognising and affirming somebody regarding who they are and what they do

And many more …

Can you see how important kindness really is?  How do we feel when we experience these opposites being done to us?

So, is kindness really that lame? Because it is certainly not lame when we get to experience, first hand, any of the opposites of kindness.

I guess it basically boils down to the age-old proverb of treating others the same way that we want to be treated. That’s kindness. 

Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

Kindness for today

Never Give Up

“Never give up, when you have the ability to achieve more.” – Kishon Prince

It is almost November and most of us are tired and drained from everything that this year has demanded of us. Our jobs, our studies, our family responsibilities or just life in general can take so much of our energy and even affect our health. But do not lose hope! It is almost the end of the year and even if you cannot go away on holiday, at least enjoy all the public holiday’s that December has to offer.

I know that it is always easier said than done when someone says ‘just hold on’ or ‘do not give up’, because when you are tired, you are tired. How do we carry on when we feel like giving up? Lailah Gifty Akita said that there is a powerful force within each of us. We should rediscover that force and use it to pull through! We have an immense gift of inner-strength. We should use it and never forget about what lies within us.

“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.”
– Maya Angelou

The beauty of humanity is that there will be some days that we have more strength than other days and that is when we can share our strength with others who seem drained. We have the ability to lift another’s spirit and encourage them to hold on, to carry on and not to give up! Inspire your friends or a stranger to be strong and to excel in their work, to keep on studying or to simply get through the day.

Never Give Up - College SA

Students of College SA, if you are feeling a bit drained or hopeless today, remember we are here to support you no matter what. You can e-mail, Skype, SMS or phone us and we will get back to you within 24 hours. I want to encourage you to finish your studies and to live the life that you want. I believe in you! Now go out in the world and spread your strength and hope!

“Fall seven times. Get up eight.” – Japanese Proverb