Life is MESSY and Life is HARD

I’ve had a pretty challenging past 24 hours.  And, being only human, I have felt very frustrated and quite miserable.

Miserable

This morning, a variety of events took place that really challenged me. It all felt like just too much. (I am sure that you can identify with that feeling – feeling completely overwhelmed by life’s challenges). I was about to phone a friend and ask them to come and find me and just hold me while I sobbed. But, before I did, something ‘dawned’ on me, or, should I say, I had a bit of an epiphany:

  • Life is hard – and experiencing this is something experienced by all living beings;

Life is hard for everybody

  • Sometimes, life is going to be particularly hard – but these do not last forever;
  • Compared to many people in the world, my life is absolutely fantastic; and

The suffering of others

  • That I need to make a choice – to allow myself to have a mini-meltdown, or, to choose to carry on driving and do the things that I need to do.

Choose to keep going

 

Of course, we are all entitled to our emotions. There ARE going to be times in which we feel that we just cannot carry on. There will be situations in our lives that will cause us great sadness or great stress.

 

But, just as certain, there will also be GREAT moments. Life will also sometimes be good. There will also be situations that bring us immense joy and satisfaction.

Life will be beautiful

 

In Italian, there is an expression ‘La vita e’ bella’ – this means ‘Life is beautiful’.

 

Oprah Winfrey (the famous US TV presenter) would often ask her audience ‘what do you know for certain?’.

 

Well, one of the things that I know for certain is that life is  incredibly difficult, and, life is also incredibly beautiful. 

 

I would like to end today’s post with a short reference to quite a beautiful story that appears in the Christian Bible, in the Jewish Torah, as well as in the Muslim Koran

All three of these Holy Books tell us of how Joshua and Caleb were amongst a group of 12 people sent by Moses to go and report on what things looked like in the land of  Canaan.  When the group of people returned to give Moses their feedback, 10 of the 12 people gave really negative opinions about what the situation was like in Canaan. The main feedback given to Moses was that Canaan was ‘Eretz Ochelet Yoshveiah’  [Hebrew for ‘A land that devours its inhabitants]. However, contrary to that negative feedback, Caleb and Joshua said that Canaan was in fact ‘Eretz Zavat Halav U’Dvash’ [Hebrew for ‘A land flowing with milk and honey’].

Why do I mention this story? Well, today I choose to believe that my life is going to contain ‘milk and honey’. And, that I am ready and waiting for the good stuff  (‘milk and honey’).

 

Wishing you all a happy day!

Take care of yourselves.

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Things that can make you happy

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There are many things that make people happy; so many people say there are big secrets to be happy.

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Now instead of giving you some big secret to live a happy life I have something simpler; some little things that can make you happy daily.

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Focus on these little things you do daily

1. Waking up, fully rested. Isn’t that feeling of waking up perfectly rested just amazing and doesn’t that make you happy?

2. Having a good appearance; looking good for the day, that’s very cool.

3. A good breakfast.

4. Finding money you didn’t know you had. Rich or poor this is a great feeling.

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5. Hearing your favourite song. Music changes your mood.

6. Enjoy the weather –  cold or warm!

7. Getting  work done, because you are just so productive and in a very determined.

8. Your 8 hour work day was so productive it just flies by.

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10. When you get home, kicking off your shoes.

11. Watching your favourite movie or series

12. Having a good healthy supper that you enjoy

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13. Having a nice shower or  a long bubble bath.

14. Getting ready for bed feeling content and accomplished for all the tasks of the day.

15. Smiling when you drift off to dreamland

Sure we don’t always have great days,  however we should try to enjoy these little things that we experience daily.

Change your mindset!

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Happiness is a choice and you can live happily!

Cheers!

 

Tortoise Power (Yes, really … )

Some of you might know about an old story (or fable) that speaks about a race between a Tortoise and a Hare.

 

Tortoise and the Hare

 

The story starts off by introducing us to the Hare (really just a bunny rabbit). The Hare challenges his friend, the Tortoise, to a race.

Everyone predicted that the Hare (I am going to call him The Bunny) would win the race.

Look at the picture below and ask yourself which one of the two would win a speed race:

The race

 

Any logical person would pick the Bunny to win, right?

Well, the Bunny did NOT win the race. The Tortoise won the race.

Who won the race

 

How did a tortoise beat a bunny in a race?

 

This is why the Bunny LOST the race:

  • The Bunny was over-confident even before the race started – he did not even consider the possibility that he might lose;
  • The Bunny was arrogant – he mocked the Tortoise and made other ‘people’ laugh at the Tortoise;
  • The Bunny, because he was so over-confident, made silly decisions during the race – during the race he stopped to get something to eat, and after that, he actually took a nap under a tree;
  • The Bunny didn’t even think about checking where the Tortoise was during the race – he was completely oblivious to anything going on around him;
  • The Bunny lost all focus during the race;
  • The Bunny allowed himself to become very distracted during the race;
  • The Bunny took too many breaks during the race.

 

This is why the Tortoise WON the race:

  • The Tortoise was not afraid to accept a challenge;
  • The Tortoise did not run away when the other ‘people’ mocked him when he accepted the challenge;
  • The Tortoise believed that he was capable of participating in the race;
  • The Tortoise was realistic about his abilities – he knew he was slower, BUT, he also knew that he had more perseverance than the Bunny;
  • The Tortoise knew that in order to finish the race (never mind win the race) that he had to believe in himself;
  • The Tortoise did not take the other competitor (the Bunny) for granted;
  • The Tortoise did not allow himself to lose focus during the race;
  • The Tortoise did not allow himself to quit during the race ;
  • The Tortoise had perseverance. 

 

Perseverance

 

 

In life, one of the greatest skills to have is perseverance. 

 

Perseverance is directly linked to success:

 

How to be successful

 

Another way of understanding perseverance is by the attitude of never giving up – no matter what.

 

Keep moving

 

At College SA, we completely understand that the ‘race’ of life can be challenging.

 

WE believe in YOU. We will be by your side during your entire education journey. We will support you, encourage you and help you.

 

Be bold – enter the ‘race’ (start studying)

 

Find a course that interests you.

 Together with YOUR PERSEVERANCE, we will help you successfully pass your course

 

Don’t be afraid to be a Turtle. Turtle Power!!

Turtle Power

Change your Attitude

Today’s post has been written by our awesome guest, Ulf Dieter Koepp. Thank you Ulf for sharing these lovely words.

 

Change your Attitude:

With things like Matric Results and New Year Resolutions,  people have two choices: flee from problems and disappointments, OR, fight to improve those problems. The human mind is a complex system – and it is so interesting to see how we all react differently to the situations in our lives.

As people, we want our lives to go our way and according to our plans. Well, life doesn’t work that way and things like obstacles, difficulties and unexpected life situations help us to develop and to mature.

 

We are all looking for solutions to our problems. Often, we expect people or a specific person to solve all our problems for us. In a sense, we are looking for a kind of a ‘Messiah’ to show us the way through our problems.

 

As part of our human experience, we will all be confronted with situations that are difficult and unpleasant. We might not be able to completely change our situations (some things just cannot be changed). But, we are always able to change our attitudes. Always. 

 

I love this quote from Hellen Keller, whom I admire for her victorious approach over her severe disabilities (being blind and deaf).

 

This is what she said: 

Look at the world straight in the eye

The world is looking for people who can deal with and flourish during difficult times. Are you one of those people?

Change your attitude

 

You can change your attitude. You can choose to be more positive. You can choose to find meaning in your life.

You are stronger than you think you are!

Your focus determines your reality

 

Achieving your Goals

All of us have goals in life.

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Whether you have goals that are small or goals that are big, the fact remains that achieving personal goals is really important.

 

Some tips on how to achieve your goals:

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Tip 1: Write down every goal that you have.

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One of the steps that can lead you toward the road to success is for you to jot down every single goal you have created. Whether what you have is a short term goal or a long term goal, it is essential that you write each one down in a journal or a notebook.

Why?

Well, once you have your goals written down, you tend to become more committed to achieving personal goals that you’ve penned.

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Goals you have scribbled also mean that you can check on them from time to time. Thus, it is very much unlikely for you to forget all those aims or aspirations. Of course, not forgetting a goal eventually leads to being able to achieve your goal.

 

Tip 2: Don’t lose sight of goals

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Always keep yourself focused and motivated – in other words, don’t lose sight of the ‘finish line’. If you don’t concentrate on reaching your aims, how can you expect to be on your way to the road to success? It is best that you check your journal from time to time, or place something on the mirror e.g. a post it, or a photo, or display something on your desk that reminds you of your aspirations; doing that will surely remind you of why achieving personal goals is important.

 

Tip 3: Pat yourself on the back when you’ve accomplished something.

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Making it a tradition to celebrate whatever goal you’ve accomplished is part of the strategies of how you can be successful. By knowing how important it is to pat yourself on the back or doing things to reward yourself when you deserve it, you won’t get tired of striving hard to reach goals. For instance, if you were able to cross out one or two things from your list of goals, treat yourself to a new phone, handbag or to a movie as that practice will help you look forward more to journeying on the road to success.

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True, achieving personal goals may not be as easy as some people would like to believe. By following these simple tips, though, you’re sure to find it less hard to achieve your goal.

Good luck!

Unsung Hero

“You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel.”  – Johnny Depp

Recently I have been doing some research about the psychological and emotional impact that advertisements have on us as humans.

On a daily basis we will encounter several ads or commercials – whether it is in print, on the radio, or on television. Not all of them will have the same kind of impact or influence – some we won’t even remember seeing, or will not even notice that they are there. But there are a few that truly captures our attention and makes us read, listen or watch with great interest.

I have watched quite a few that made me laugh, cry or think. I would like to share a commercial with you for a Thai Life Insurance company. The commercial is in Thai, but it has English subtitles. Please do take the time to view this extraordinary 3 minute commercial titled Unsung Hero.

The term “unsung hero” can be defined as someone who does great deeds and does not receive any recognition for it. In this commercial, the young man performed numerous acts of kindness, and people frowned upon him. In the end, he did not receive recognition, a medal, money, or a better life. No, he received something far greater. He got to witness happiness!

This commercial really got me thinking about how we live our lives each day. Do we do good or kind things and expect people to do the same for us? Or do we do it selflessly – without any expectations?

So the psychological effect that the commercial had on me was to make me think that we should all live the way the young man in the Thai commercial lives. We should live generously. We cannot always afford to give away half our meal or the money in our wallet. But we can give something of ourselves. We can give a helping hand, a hug, a kind word, or even just a smile. I think we underestimate the power of a simple act of kindness.

We live in a fast-paced world where our only concern is ourselves. We need to stop this mentality. We should care about all people – whether we know them or not.

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Maybe that casual conversation you had with a stranger is the only form of contact he/she will have that day. Maybe the smile you gave to the person you passed on the street is the only form of friendliness that person has received all day. You see, we can make a big difference in someone else’s life by making small differences in our own.

I know that I am not the only person that feels this way, and I hope that the commercial also touched some of you. I want to witness the happiness in the world. Students of College SA, don’t you?

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”

 – Mark Twain