What is kindness NOT?

Hi there everybody,

 

Kindness is often considered to be a bit of a lame word. Kindness is what ‘sweet’ people do, right? People such as missionaries and social workers are kind, yes?

Well, not actually.

What is kindness not?

Kindness is often under-valued – it’s considered to be mostly just the stuff expressed in those soppy Hallmark cards. How sad is that?

So, if most of us think that kindness is ‘lame’, how do we feel when we personally experience the opposite of kindness?

What are the opposites of kindness?

  • Cruelty
  • Indifference
  • Impatience
  • Intolerance
  • Abuse
  • Ridicule
  • Dishonesty
  • Disrespect
  • The need to punish and make somebody feel bad
  • The need to assert your superiority over somebody so that the other person feels ‘less than’ and insignificant
  • Withholding time, affection, intimacy
  • Not appreciating somebody
  • Not recognising and affirming somebody regarding who they are and what they do

And many more …

Can you see how important kindness really is?  How do we feel when we experience these opposites being done to us?

So, is kindness really that lame? Because it is certainly not lame when we get to experience, first hand, any of the opposites of kindness.

I guess it basically boils down to the age-old proverb of treating others the same way that we want to be treated. That’s kindness. 

Our prime purpose in life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

Kindness for today

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