Life is MESSY and Life is HARD

I’ve had a pretty challenging past 24 hours.  And, being only human, I have felt very frustrated and quite miserable.

Miserable

This morning, a variety of events took place that really challenged me. It all felt like just too much. (I am sure that you can identify with that feeling – feeling completely overwhelmed by life’s challenges). I was about to phone a friend and ask them to come and find me and just hold me while I sobbed. But, before I did, something ‘dawned’ on me, or, should I say, I had a bit of an epiphany:

  • Life is hard – and experiencing this is something experienced by all living beings;

Life is hard for everybody

  • Sometimes, life is going to be particularly hard – but these do not last forever;
  • Compared to many people in the world, my life is absolutely fantastic; and

The suffering of others

  • That I need to make a choice – to allow myself to have a mini-meltdown, or, to choose to carry on driving and do the things that I need to do.

Choose to keep going

 

Of course, we are all entitled to our emotions. There ARE going to be times in which we feel that we just cannot carry on. There will be situations in our lives that will cause us great sadness or great stress.

 

But, just as certain, there will also be GREAT moments. Life will also sometimes be good. There will also be situations that bring us immense joy and satisfaction.

Life will be beautiful

 

In Italian, there is an expression ‘La vita e’ bella’ – this means ‘Life is beautiful’.

 

Oprah Winfrey (the famous US TV presenter) would often ask her audience ‘what do you know for certain?’.

 

Well, one of the things that I know for certain is that life is  incredibly difficult, and, life is also incredibly beautiful. 

 

I would like to end today’s post with a short reference to quite a beautiful story that appears in the Christian Bible, in the Jewish Torah, as well as in the Muslim Koran

All three of these Holy Books tell us of how Joshua and Caleb were amongst a group of 12 people sent by Moses to go and report on what things looked like in the land of  Canaan.  When the group of people returned to give Moses their feedback, 10 of the 12 people gave really negative opinions about what the situation was like in Canaan. The main feedback given to Moses was that Canaan was ‘Eretz Ochelet Yoshveiah’  [Hebrew for ‘A land that devours its inhabitants]. However, contrary to that negative feedback, Caleb and Joshua said that Canaan was in fact ‘Eretz Zavat Halav U’Dvash’ [Hebrew for ‘A land flowing with milk and honey’].

Why do I mention this story? Well, today I choose to believe that my life is going to contain ‘milk and honey’. And, that I am ready and waiting for the good stuff  (‘milk and honey’).

 

Wishing you all a happy day!

Take care of yourselves.

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Change your Attitude

Today’s post has been written by our awesome guest, Ulf Dieter Koepp. Thank you Ulf for sharing these lovely words.

 

Change your Attitude:

With things like Matric Results and New Year Resolutions,  people have two choices: flee from problems and disappointments, OR, fight to improve those problems. The human mind is a complex system – and it is so interesting to see how we all react differently to the situations in our lives.

As people, we want our lives to go our way and according to our plans. Well, life doesn’t work that way and things like obstacles, difficulties and unexpected life situations help us to develop and to mature.

 

We are all looking for solutions to our problems. Often, we expect people or a specific person to solve all our problems for us. In a sense, we are looking for a kind of a ‘Messiah’ to show us the way through our problems.

 

As part of our human experience, we will all be confronted with situations that are difficult and unpleasant. We might not be able to completely change our situations (some things just cannot be changed). But, we are always able to change our attitudes. Always. 

 

I love this quote from Hellen Keller, whom I admire for her victorious approach over her severe disabilities (being blind and deaf).

 

This is what she said: 

Look at the world straight in the eye

The world is looking for people who can deal with and flourish during difficult times. Are you one of those people?

Change your attitude

 

You can change your attitude. You can choose to be more positive. You can choose to find meaning in your life.

You are stronger than you think you are!

Your focus determines your reality

 

Don’t believe what they say …

It’s a sad fact that, in life, we are going to come across some seriously hurtful people.

 

 

Hurtful people

 

Hurtful people can be hurtful in a variety of different way. Often, hurtful people use cruel words to hurt us.

 

 Words – even if you delete them off a page – remain in our memories.

 

For example, I can still remember the hurtful words said to me when I was in primary school by one of the school bullies (and this happened over 25 years ago).

 

It’s just one of the mysteries and joys of human life – we get hurt and, of course, we hurt others.

 

Many of our Students at College SA tell me that they experienced people in their lives who were hurtful towards them about their intelligence and about how successful they would (or would not be) later on in life.

 

My own primary school Principal told me that he didn’t think that I would be very successful in life.

 

That’s just awful.

 

There is some good news:

1) Things become easier once you accept that there will always be negative and hurtful people.

2) Things become easier still when you realise that the opinions of those negative people are not based on the truth.

3) Things become even easier when you discover that you can achieve your dreams and be happy, in spite of what those people said to you.

 

Don't believe the nastiness

 

What I love about working at College SA is seeing our Students succeed – in spite of what the students may have believed about their supposed lack of intelligence or educational abilities.

With every single student that graduates from College SA, I think to myself:

 

“Everybody can study. Everybody can improve their knowledge and skills. Everybody can achieve”.

 

Studying is not just for clever people, or just for the people who did really well in school. If somebody tells you that, they are lying to you.

 

DO NOT BELIEVE THEM.

 

Studying is for everybody. We are all entitled to become better skilled and better qualified people.

 

If the only reason why you are not studying now is because somebody told you that you wouldn’t make it, then, it’s time to stop believing what that person told you. They lied to you.

 

Do not believe what that person said to you.

 

College SA is a College for all sorts of Students. Our College family welcomes anybody who has a sincere desire to make a difference in their life. 

 

If you want to start proving to other people, but more importantly, to yourself, that you CAN be successful in your studies, well then, what are you waiting for?

 

College SA – we are here for YOU.

 

 

 

 

 

Who You Are

“Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and then it will never be used to hurt you.”  – Tyrion Lannister

September will always be the month that we identify with flowers, green leaves and colour. In a poetic sense, spring reminds me of new beginnings, beauty, and being free.

We celebrated women the whole of August, and with spring bringing new life, it reminded me that we should celebrate ourselves. So this September I want each and every one of us to celebrate and embrace who we are!

It does not matter where you came from or where you are at this stage in your life. It does not matter who you were. What truly matters is who you have become. The person you are now is the only one that matters. And let me tell you something about that person:

The person you are deserves to be loved, deserves to be happy, deserves to find hope every day, deserves to laugh – and most importantly – deserves to live life the way you have always intended.

Love, Who You are, College SA, You Deserve Love

But remember – even though you should celebrate and embrace yourself, you should always respect and love the people around you. Just like you, they also deserve all the good things in life.

There will be days when you will be happier and more radiant than someone around you – so share your smile, share your happiness, and let your positivity spread like a wildfire. And when the day comes when you feel a bit blue, I am sure a friend or even a stranger will share their kindness with you too.

Share happiness, Spread hope, friendship, share kindness, College SA

Even though we embrace who we are now, we should never forget where we came from, who we were, or what we went through. There is always a reason for everything. Sometimes a bad thing will happen to you, but you will be moulded by this bad situation and become who you were meant to be.

“When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in. That is what the storm is all about.” – Haruki Murakami

Tim Fargo said that who you are tomorrow begins with what you do today. So be the person today that you would be proud of if you had to look back tomorrow. Be the person that can say: “This is me” and be content.

Students of College SA, remember who you are and believe in who you want to be. It is spring. Love yourself, listen to the sound of hope that lives within you, and share it!