Are you naked?

Most of us hate the thought of being naked.

Naked usually means to be without clothes.

Are you naked?


But naked can refer to being truly ‘you’ – the ‘you’ that is more real than fake happy Facebook status updates.

Do you know what you look like naked?


Who are you really?


It is not easy to find out who we really are. Most of us never truly figure that out. 

Hopefully, while we are figuring out who we are, we get to some level of self-acceptance. Part of that self-acceptance means accepting that not everybody is going to love us or accept us.

And that is okay too.

What I have learned

Many years ago I came across a truly amazing piece of writing that has really stuck in my head. It speaks about emotional nakedness.

I would like to end today’s chat with these words. It’s quite long – so I apologise for this. But, I think that these words are really, really powerful.

The author is Oriah Mountain Dreamer, and the extract comes from her novel, The Invitation. I hope that you will find something in these words that speaks to you:


It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.

I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain!

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it’s not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Shift your focus

It’s completely normal to feel lost and unbalanced every now and then – especially when we have too much on our minds. Most of the time, we become so consumed with our thoughts, that we lose sight of (and forget to focus on) what is actually important to us. I know I’ve made that mistake one too many times. But life is about lessons, right? If we are not learning something every day, then what are we doing with our time?

Like anything in life, we need to redirect our thoughts into the light – especially when it comes to studying. Focusing on the negative things in life will never generate any positivity. For example, focusing on the fact that your exam is going to be difficult will not make it any easier. Instead, you should try to focus on getting through the work so that you are well prepared for the exam.

Your focus determines your reality

Browsing through some inspirational stories for this blog post, I came across one story where a coach was able to motivate his team to win a game by encouraging them to change their focus:

“If you were to place two planks across the floor and ask 10 of your friends to walk over to the other side of the room, it would be easy, because their focus would be on walking to get to the other side. But if you put those same two planks 10 stories high between two buildings, only a few would make it, because the focus would be on falling.”

That story is a clear example of the phrase “focus is everything”! We need to imagine the light, and think about how that desired outcome will feel. Once we are able to do that, we can summon that feeling into the moment and focus on it. This might just create the reality that we all seek.


We need to create healthy thought-processes for ourselves, because focusing our attention on a problem will only amplify it.

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