Don’t believe what they say …

It’s a sad fact that, in life, we are going to come across some seriously hurtful people.



Hurtful people


Hurtful people can be hurtful in a variety of different way. Often, hurtful people use cruel words to hurt us.


 Words – even if you delete them off a page – remain in our memories.


For example, I can still remember the hurtful words said to me when I was in primary school by one of the school bullies (and this happened over 25 years ago).


It’s just one of the mysteries and joys of human life – we get hurt and, of course, we hurt others.


Many of our Students at College SA tell me that they experienced people in their lives who were hurtful towards them about their intelligence and about how successful they would (or would not be) later on in life.


My own primary school Principal told me that he didn’t think that I would be very successful in life.


That’s just awful.


There is some good news:

1) Things become easier once you accept that there will always be negative and hurtful people.

2) Things become easier still when you realise that the opinions of those negative people are not based on the truth.

3) Things become even easier when you discover that you can achieve your dreams and be happy, in spite of what those people said to you.


Don't believe the nastiness


What I love about working at College SA is seeing our Students succeed – in spite of what the students may have believed about their supposed lack of intelligence or educational abilities.

With every single student that graduates from College SA, I think to myself:


“Everybody can study. Everybody can improve their knowledge and skills. Everybody can achieve”.


Studying is not just for clever people, or just for the people who did really well in school. If somebody tells you that, they are lying to you.




Studying is for everybody. We are all entitled to become better skilled and better qualified people.


If the only reason why you are not studying now is because somebody told you that you wouldn’t make it, then, it’s time to stop believing what that person told you. They lied to you.


Do not believe what that person said to you.


College SA is a College for all sorts of Students. Our College family welcomes anybody who has a sincere desire to make a difference in their life. 


If you want to start proving to other people, but more importantly, to yourself, that you CAN be successful in your studies, well then, what are you waiting for?


College SA – we are here for YOU.






30 Day Challenge of…

“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety.” – Abraham Maslow

Have you noticed that magazines and social media are being overrun by these “30-day challenges”? They can become quite annoying. They are usually a 30-day challenge to lose stomach fat, a 30-day challenge to detox, or a 30-day challenge to get better legs.

30 Day Challenge for the Mind

The reason why these challenges irritate me is not because they are literally everywhere, but because I never manage to finish them. Even when I do come remotely close to finishing, I find that I did not lose stomach fat, or my legs do not seem any different.

These short challenges do not seem to show any results. They give a false impression that you will be healthier simply by doing a 30-day detox challenge, or that you will have a flatter stomach or toned legs after a mere 30 days. In reality, this will not be the case.

Today, I present you with a 30-day challenge that I believe will show results. Now I know that it seems like I am contradicting what I have just said in this blog post, but this challenge will work a bit differently. It is not for your body, but for your mind.

For 30 days, you should tell yourself the following things every morning when you wake up:

  • I am beautiful and worthy.
  • I am never too much and never too little. I am enough.
  • I have something to offer the world.
  • I am strong.
  • I have overcome and will continue to overcome.
  • I will not be disheartened by other people’s opinions of me or my life in general.

And most importantly:

  • Feelings are real, but they are not facts.

And every night before you go to sleep, you should tell yourself:

  • I did my best.
  • I am proud of myself.
  • Whatever tomorrow holds, I can get through it.
  • I am a survivor.


“Someone once asked me how I hold my head up so high after all I have been through. I said, it is because no matter what, I AM a SURVIVOR, NOT a victim.” – Patricia Buckley


The challenge may seem simple, but I challenge each and every one of you to tell yourself these things every day for 30 days. After the 30 days, you might never think of them again, but perhaps one or two will linger in your memory. There might even be a few of you whose inner voice will have changed a bit – even if just for a little while.

This 30-day challenge will probably not change your life. It is a challenge to make you aware and to make you question the way you speak to yourself, the way you treat yourself, and the way you think about yourself.

The purpose of this challenge is to build self-confidence and to stop you from being so hard on yourself. You have made it through a lot already, and you will continue to rise above your circumstances.

What matters most is how you see yourself

You should realise that we are not defined by our faults, our possessions, or our physical appearances. Rather, we are defined by our choices and the kindness of our souls. Every day, we will encounter hardships, trials, and challenges. But every day we will also encounter beauty, hope, and the freedom to choose to be moulded by our bad experiences.

The lessons we have learned by overcoming obstacles in our lives are far more valuable than we think. We become survivors. We become warriors. We become human.

Visit College SA to find out how you can advance yourself and overcome any obstacles in your life.

“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.” – John Wayne